MAYBE it’s hard for some of us not to feel jealous of others’ happiness or success. It’s even harder when it’s our best friends’ happiness or success. So hard.
Well, hard or not, that merely depends on the person. Why? It’s because everybody has their own path, obviously different from one to another.
When we are grateful for what we have, we simply have no more time to want what others have, as we feel we already have enough.
On the other hand, if we lack things in our lives—less happiness, less success, less money, less health, less everything—every time we see others, let alone, our best friends experiencing happiness, we might feel different and even annoyed with it.
Here are some jealous responses when witnessing best friends’ happiness or success:
- Change the conversation topic from the source of the best friends’ happiness or success to something else.
- Behave as if we’re happy, though looking for a way to avoid the best friends after.
- More interested in discussing about the best friends’ failures rather than the success.
However, there are also some of us who are even more motivated to become better, to work harder and harder to be as successful as our best friends. That’s the spirit, right?
Looks like what we need to discuss here is how we can be great friends, to be supportive in everything, in health and sickness.
Success? Congratulate them, ask for tips, and motivate them to be more successful. Failure? Support them to bounce back; not be happy, ok?
Do our parts as friends; just be there for our friends. Don’t be busy comparing why they succeed while we don’t. It’s our friends’ moments, not ours, bear that in mind.
Make their happiness ours as well. Work on the failures together. Don’t be afraid of missing out on the moments. Everybody has their own story to tell. Don’t worry about that too much, OK?
Seeking friends’ sympathy when we fail seems to be much easier than when we are happy. It’s because when we ‘fall’, our friends will instantly show their sympathy and seem to also feel our sadness.
But when we’re happy, why do some others find it hard to also be happy? Isn’t happiness enjoyable, is it?
Isn’t it the feeling of sadness that tends to make our immune system drop; don’t you think? But the fact is, what’s happening is quite contrary; it’s not easy to be happy witnessing our friends’ success.
In fact, for some of us, to be happy for our successful friends seems to be tough; we keep wondering “How can he/she succeed? Why not me?”. Come on, admit it. Who still does that?
Being happy for others is not as easy as we think it will be. Complicated. It requires the deepest sincerity of the heart.
It’s OK. We can learn about it, but please make sure that our happiness is from our deepest heart. For the future, there is a lot we can learn from our friends’ success.
Have faith, that one day when we succeed, the friends who were successful before, will also be happy for us, for we were once part of their success. So, are you still jealous, friend?