NORMALY, after graduating from school, we will continue our studies to college, then we get married and have kids.
Yet, what if we don’t fall into the common pattern? Is that wrong? Does that mean we’re not normal? This article will not let you know the answer instantly, but it may make you understand how the ‘uncommon’ people feel.
Why, oh why, wedding parties or celebrations which are attended by maybe millions of people could be disasters for some others?
Are you still wondering about the earlier questions? If you are, it means you don’t belong to the ‘uncommon’ side.
Believe it or not, for some of us, wedding parties or celebrations are likely to be disastrous as they become the perfect time for some common yet annoying questions to buzz.
Here are some of the questions. If you ‘commonly’ ask one or more of these questions, please do read on. This article might be just right for you.
- Hi, you look so gorgeous. Isn’t there a boyfriend/girlfriend around?
- Oh my gosh, you haven’t graduated yet? When are you planning to get married then?
- Wow, how long have you been married again? No children yet?
- Doesn’t Raka want to have another brother or sister? Come on, you can make one.
- How long have you been together? Aren’t you getting married any time soon?
Fun nights turn to shitty nights. Some of us, having ‘common’ lives, as expected by many, feel we earn the right to judge others having ‘uncommon’ ones. Wow. It must be that hard not to comment about other people’s lives.
For some others who are usually buzzed with those normal and standard questions, try to be more relaxed when responding.
No need to make a big deal out of it. They are not worth it. Just let them pass. Take it positively; you’re so special that many people are ‘very’ concerned with your life.
Maybe it’s too much, but believe me, you might feel better that way. They care too much. That’s it. Try not to take it too personally.
And for some of us who can’t resist making judgments or comments about other people’s lives, please say it nicely. It’s because this is also a matter of courtesy and politeness in conversation.
Well, I once got this quote from a friend— ‘Not everyone has your heart’.
Please go through again, do you really know what’s going on with someone’s life that he or she is not graduated yet, the reasons for not having a partner yet, not getting married yet, not having kids yet, or not having more kids yet? If it turns out that you actually don’t really know or understand about it, then ask yourself again, what is normal anyway?