Ghosting

It’s just a story about a habit known as “ghosting”/./What is it, you say? Let’s get started.

It turns out that not only does technology develop so fast these days, the dating world is no exception.

In the dating world of the modern era like today, many new terms are popping up.

One of which is ghosting.

It all started with a story between two Hollywood celebrities who eventually broke off their engagement as the girl quietly left the guy, then this term was invented.

But again, even long before that, the term ghosting had already existed.

It was when the story of a New York cartoonist and writer girl, who made a music video titled “Ghoster’s Paradise” (a parody of Coolio’s song Gangsta’s Paradise).

The music video was inspired by a story about a girl who, after having a nice date, waited for a call from the guy who promised to call back (but apparently not, hahahaha..).

Since then, the act of breaking off a relationship by not saying anything is known as ghosting.

There was even a poll then stating that 11% of Americans are used to ghosting—while more than 15% of the ghosts are guys and more than 25% are girls.

What a number! Whether it’s right or wrong, it’s none of our business.

Nevertheless, guess we can discuss some more about the impacts of this habit.

It looks like ghosting can be categorized as a habit done by many people especially when they are emotionally unavailable.

They don’t dare to face the reality of seeing the other parties getting hurt.

They’re indecisive. They simply don’t have the heart to hurt others or they just don’t want to feel bad.

There are many other reasons.

Isn’t it just the same with many of us, who promise to come to a family or even an office event, but then our phone is not available the next day?

Or, a new candidate who does not show up on the day he or she is supposed to get interviewed? Or maybe a newbie employee who misses his or her first day of job without any news?

What’s the difference with those habits—which we may have done before?

Well, getting ghosted sucks, I know.

But somehow, I guess, some people just couldn’t bring themselves to be responsible for what they do to others.

So, what we can do when we’re getting ghosted by anyone is, to understand, that people are not always like we think they are; that what has been said is not necessarily what they do after.

So, just be ready with whatever it is! People sometimes say what they don’t mean, and mean what they don’t say.

For some of us who have ghosted others, maybe we should start realizing that this habit is in fact ‘bothering’ others.

It will be wise, if we can be more ‘daring’, to be responsible for taking our next actions. Don’t just ‘disappear’; it confuses everybody.

I know it is easier to just run than to confront your person, but believe me, it is for the greater good.

The existence of this term has indeed become a dilemma to the ghosting habit itself.

It is claimed that the term is encouraging people to ghost others more—like it’s just a normal thing to do for it has its term.

Therefore, some people feel like removing the term for this habit.

However, some who get ghosted feel that the term might give them a moment for healing.

Knowing that there are actually many people out there having the same situation might ease their pain of being ghosted, though maybe just a bit.

Well, which one are you?